The second characteristic of a servant leaders that we can see is that authentic leaders have what Murray Boman referred to as "a well-differentiated self".  We commonly say that an authentic leader is "comfortable in their own skin".  Such leaders do not depend so heavily own the acceptance and approval of others that the leader changes the way they think, behave, or lead. A servant leader who has a clear understanding of who the are and whose the are comfortable with the decisions they have made. This confidence comes from the knowledge that every decision is not made based on whims, what is easiest, or the emotion of the moment. We the clamor and noise of the group dies down the servant leader stands strong in their decision because it is one rooted in the careful assessment of the facts and made after conferring with God. Looking at the example of Farve and Warner, Farve retired in 2008 at a teary press conference only to decide to play football again. In 2010,a  confident Warner announced his retirement and stated that  he is looking forward to finally being a true father to his seven kids, and he wanted to spend time with his wife. He spoke largely on the impact and influence of his family, former teammates, and God